Ask Anything 2e with the Experts

Thursday, May 14, 2020 @ 10:00am Pacific Time

Join our world-renowned experts to ask anything about your 2e child, in terms of their social, emotional, academic or behavioral development. Dr. Dan Peters is the executive director and clinical neuropsychologist at the Summit Center. Dr. Susan Baum is the director of the 2e Center at Bridges Academy and 2e educational expert.

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1My five-year-old 2e son (with ADHD) struggles with transitions and self-regulation. As soon as he doesn't get his way, a meltdown follows, and he gets stuck in what I think of as a "loop" where he keeps asking for something (i.e., a hug, for me to sit down, etc.) and won't stop even after he's gotten it. I look at him sometimes and realize he isn't recognizing that he's actually gotten what he asked for. I try to make him feel safe but he seems "stuck" in his own head. How can I help him?
2My son (2E, anxiety, ASD) is absolutely thriving with my homeschooling approach since the lockdown. But, while I can find ways to back into learning through his natural interests, I am terrified about what the social distancing will do to his already social anxiety. How do you suggest we approach maintaining social growth when homeschooling for the next year may be our only option?
3What can you say about the validity of NVLD? especially now that it's not in the DSM? We've been told this is an explanation for some of our 6 year-old son's social, spatial and motor skills challenges. He has a high EQ and does not display ASD tendencies. But can be rigid. He struggles with writing and says he sometimes "can't make his body do what he wants it to do." He has an OT and is on medication for ADHD. We heard there are some NVLD sub-types, less akin to ASD but more organization-focused.
4Are we doing our 2e son a disservice by inviting his private psychologist (working with him) and a private ABA (working with us, parents) to his annual IEP meeting to be held remotely due to COVID19 in Fairfax County Public School in VA?. He is in an "Advanced Academic Program" providing one grade above average curriculum which is not challenging his intelligence at all. He has IEP for ASD & ADD inattentive type, needs EF support and acceleration the school has ignored for 6 years (K-5th grade).
5My 2E son is six, almost seven, and there seems to be disagreement between experts he has seen about whether he is on the spectrum, vs gifted with social emotional delay. Can you talk about some ways to tell the difference, if possible? I’m not sure if it matters, but it might help to know what the future holds and to wear the right “lenses”.
6Is it common for 2e kids to be diagnosed/misdiagnosed with multiple conditions? Psych testing came back with ADHD, PTSD, ASD, Dyslexia, SPD. Can he have everything? I suspect PDA. He (8 yrs) has a top 5 percent score in verbal, descending thereafter to a low processing speed. We homeschool, (after a horrendous school experience), and have a dyslexia tutor. He’s happier now but only wants to work on his own ideas, so academic progress is slow. Is this 2e? I’m wondering what to tackle first?
7Homeschool is a disaster for my 2e, extremely slow processing, ADHD and ASD fifteen year old son. He is extremely social, but not always successfully and outgoing. He is an only child and has become depressed, angry, highly reactive and addicted to video gaming. He has always disliked school but with the rewards, has always been able to achieve passing grades. Now he refuses to do any online school work. He has horrible rages and is screaming and yelling almost daily. We’re exhausted, he is having suicidal ideations. Should we let him fail this semester and let him play video games with his friends for six hours a day and start over next fall?
8I'm hoping one day my 11 year old can put herself to bed. Currently, she's in PJs, teeth brushed, & in her room by 8:30. She reads for 1hr. But then putting a book on "pause" to turn out the lights & sleep has been a multi-year struggle. W/ some serious Plan B help it's been better, but as a book addict (& it feels very addiction-like), she's in a bad mood. For the past year+, @ 9:30 we do a nightly meditation to help her to turn her mind off. Ideally she'd stop reading & turn off lights on her own!
My almost 16 year old son has also stopped doing online schooling. I don't know whether to let him fail his classes and do whatever he likes or try to add back structure. He is highly resistant to my intervention.
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11I have long been an advocate of tying my middle schooler's interests into his learning plan, as often as possible. Lately he has been very bitter and frustrated when I turn enjoyable hobbies and interests into school-like connections and output. Do you have suggestions on how to motivate him to pursue his interests deeply, even when he suspects (or confirms) that it will eventually turn into evidence of learning goal progress for his school? He tells me I am ruining his enjoyment.
12I am a homeschooling mom. Do you have any insights as to how to create an environment that drives learning from intrinsic motivation? Lego, art, watching science and nature videos he does intrinsically on his own. He can do math, but right now his motivation for doing it is if he gets his iPad as a reward.
Could Sue please re-list those criteria she uses to determine which activities “have benefit to” the kids? Enjoyment, not hurting anyone, what else?
14My son is a 12 y/o competitive athlete who I believe is currently both afraid of failure and success. Lately, his fear of success seems to be more dominant. About two weeks ago, he achieved some significant goals in his sport, but now appears to be sliding backwards, expressing fear and anxiety. I wonder if he's uncomfortable about his success and whether he feels as if expectations will be placed on him to continue to succeed. He's said he has a low self image.
15My almost 13yo 2e son is very vulnerable to hyperarousal and dysregulation from screen use, and for him the transition to online classes has been difficult. Two months in, he's now moody and irritable almost every day. He recently confessed he has started playing video games during classes. (We thanked him for his honesty.) He vows not to do it anymore but then does it again; then feels bad, and says he's a no good, useless person. How would you suggest we try to navigate these difficult waters?
16What may be some dos and don'ts in the classroom for a kid (8) with strong verbal comprehension and fluid reasoning while at the same time weak working memory and possibly processing speed? His frustration tolerance is very poor and he often refuses to do any work associated with school.
17When my daughter was in kindergarten/preschool I would do additional flashcards and answers came so easily to her. Now in 2nd grade I will ask her what’s 8+1 & she gets so nervous & says I don’t know. What happened? Her reading, spelling, etc are still really strong. Now that we’re homeschooling I really see it. Most of the online programs the teacher gives stresses her out so I’ve been trying to do dice, card or other games to make it more fun. Any other suggestions to help her?
1813.5 year old ending grade 8, diagnosis of ADHD (medicated), dyslexia and Dysgraphia. I've heard many successful adults say they had to learn to adapt + overcome their dyslexia, but I can't find concrete methods + activities. During this COVID time, I want to focus on this with him. Any online tools or programs or resources to recommend?
What is the difference between NVLD (non-verbal learning disorder) and Apraxia?

20Should I expect my ADHD son to remember tasks or keep supports around, to help with executive function, how much do you do for him, like chores?
Are 2e kids more likely to resist this form of learning? My friend has neurotypical kids that are just getting on with it.
My 13 year old 2e daughter has always been socially awkward and had trouble making and keeping friends. Her school is Fusion Academy, which is fantastic for her academically, but a train wreck socially. She struggles with depression (we’re actively monitoring and treating this), and her social isolation is a real problem and feeds her depression. Can anyone offer resources for connecting her with 2e peers that she could connect with socially.
Are there any educational high school institutions in the Pacific Northwest (US and Canada) that share the Bridges approach?
24What reading program would you recommend for an ASD 7 year old who has sensory issues, ADHD . She knows her letters and can read certain sight words but has problems sounding letters and tends to utilize pictures to interpret the contents.
25My son is seeing a psychologist, psychiatrist and is taking meds, but healing takes time. He has a job as a beta tester and moderator for a new gaming company. He also has to interview and hire others to be beta testers and moderators. He even has staff meetings. We’re proud of him for his accomplishments, but we are still torn as to whether to make him finish this semester. He’s at a wonderful private school for kids with LD, called Compass High School in San Mateo, CA. They have offered to let him watch two movies and read a book of his choice, in order to pass this semester. Unfortunately, he’s rebelling against anything that has to do with school right now. What should we do?
26Do I teach Algebra 2 with Common Core which is more about taking the time to understand mathematical thinking which is needed to do well in college Calculus or do I focus on quick retrieval of facts which is necessary to pass the SAT which is needed to get into the college he wants to go to? As a homeschooler the college requires the SAT. He has very slow processing speed.
Our 6.5 year old son has WISC-V index scores 96th percentile on verbal, visual & fluid reasoning, 93rd working memory and 6th for processing speed - this fits with difficulties focussing on daily tasks and very distracted internally/externally. Also has interoceptive and self-regulation challenges, some sensory sensitivities and retained reflexes (seeing an OT). Very sociable with peers and adults but can find it difficult adapting to others ideas and doesn’t show much empathy. Do you suggest any further areas to investigate in helping us understand what’s beneath the surface for our son?
28Seeing differences change/evolve over time, is there an age or other milestone at which a re-evaluation should be considered?

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