Positive Path Forward Workshop

Module 1: Clarify the Situation

In this module, Debbie will share with you the key steps in developing a positive road map for your bright & quirky child.  We'll cover the core concepts and stages that can make your journey easier and help your child thrive.

Action steps for this module:

1Watch the video
2Download and complete the Module 1 Worksheet
3Download the Slide Presentation
4Share your thoughts either in the comments section below or in the Facebook Group
5Click here if you are interested in connecting with a Listening Buddy

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22 Comments

  1. Nina on September 18, 2019 at 9:49 am

    These modules are very empowering! When we change our way of looking at things we can free ourselves to see new solutions.

  2. Julie on August 20, 2019 at 8:45 am

    My homework: I have a 7 year old son (or as he reminds me every day – 7 years and 8 month?) who belongs on a stage! He loves to sing, dance and make people laugh. He is kind, thoughtful and loyal. He is extremely observant. He loves swimming, karate, tennis and golf and most of all playing with his friends and video games (which, according to him, he doesn’t get nearly enough time to do lol). He has ADHD (combined) and several learning challenges, and struggles with intense and extreme emotions, staying focused, self-confidence and significant anxiety that makes it extremely difficult for him to “let go” and/or move forward. He is the light of my life and fills my heart every day. Thank you for helping me on this journey of creating a good-fit life for him.

  3. Leisa on May 24, 2019 at 5:52 pm

    Our daughter has always struggled with school, being 2e. We also knew that she was very creative and highly verbal. When we showed the principal her artwork, it was pushed to the side (literally) and the discussion went back to medicating. I removed her from school to see if we could find a better way. She is now thriving – living proof that a strength based/green zone approach works. For some hope have a look at quirkycrittersquirkycritters.com.au

    • Leisa on May 24, 2019 at 5:54 pm

      That should be quirkycritters.com.au

      • Tereza Korbel on October 15, 2019 at 8:42 am

        Wow, what talent, lovely!

    • Connor on July 28, 2019 at 10:29 am

      My module 1 homework: I have an 8 yo son who amazes me on a daily basis. He absorbs information like a sponge, is constantly learning about gadgets, loves to learn about the history of technology. His brain works in ways I can’t begin to comprehend (and I’m his homeschool teacher). He has a wonderful sense of humor and likes to be funny. He is super sweet and sensitive and has really big feelings. He wonders a lot and has really big ideas that are fun to listen to. The limits: he gets easily frustrated when pursuing ideas that don’t work out, or don’t come together easily. He struggles to socialize outside of what his current interest which limits his friendships. He also likes to control everything which affects all of his relationships. He struggles to follow directions and wants to do everything that he wants to do in his own way.

  4. Sharon on May 14, 2019 at 8:42 am

    It’s been a process and I definitely evolved from the “fix it mentality” to “find a good life-fit” mindset and also being that citizen scientist. My son’s strengths are humor, keen perception, kindness, wisdom, math/science. His main challenge is how deeply he goes into his head at times and the executive functioning difficulties that come with that. My empowering belief is that as he matures, he will develop his awareness to the external world and be able to navigate between his inner and outer world more easily on his own.

  5. Felicia Shockey on April 9, 2019 at 8:40 am

    Here is my homework. Strengths/likes: loving, kind, helpful, math, science, history, theater, guitar, piano, has a wonderful, creative, problem-solving brain and is patient with younger children. Dislikes/weaknesses: ALL executive functioning skills, is opinionated, depressed, anxious, has trouble socially and has never found his tribe. Empowering Belief: I will help my son find his tribe and to create a life he feels good about and can be successful in!

  6. Felicia Shockey on April 9, 2019 at 8:32 am

    I felt hope after this session. We have struggled immensely in the last 4 years and I MUST project hope for my child, even when I feel hopeless. We as parents also need to let go of the notion of what our son could/would/should do/be and instead focus on helping him create a life he feels good about and can be successful in!

  7. isabelle Riou on March 15, 2019 at 9:42 am

    I found the exercise particularly powerful .. I really needed to change my mind. thank you

  8. Kim on March 12, 2019 at 6:21 pm

    Love the setup of these. Nice and clear. Plus I get to tick mark when I’m done and don’t have to question myself.
    I like how you flipped a negative opinion around like Dr Amen does with his ANTS

  9. Gabrielle on March 12, 2019 at 1:02 am

    Other takeaways: Very reassuring to hear how it is a process of trial and error as we have done a lot of that, and sometimes I feel defeated. But it is more encouraging to think of in terms of all the things we can cross off as not effective. I worry my marinade has been wrong so many times. Can I fix a badly marinated pickle? Self-care for me is hiking, yoga, hot chocolate, horse riding, and gardening. Would love a listening buddy who has a similar age/issues child and could chat or email if time zones did not work (we are in NZ).

  10. Gabrielle on March 12, 2019 at 12:56 am

    So here’s my bit for the worksheet. Strengths: loves to dance, play cello, learn foreign languages, history, math, and science; amazing self-motivated/directed and independent, keen learner; a very kind and caring friend; has a wonderful, creative imagination; and is a patient and encouraging teacher to others. Limiting belief: my daughter will always be inflexible with small changes and have very low frustration tolerance. Empowering belief: I will find a way to help my daughter cope with life’s daily changes and frustrations.

  11. Gabrielle on March 11, 2019 at 10:13 pm

    My feelings: after 10 years (she started as an intense newborn!) of trying so many things, I definitely feeling stuck and overwhelmed. What else: grief, sadness, and resentment about the time and relationship I have lost with my younger child because of my B&Q child’s needs (my younger one is now at public school to get a break from the intensity, and I would love to homeschool her); tiredness/fatigue; guilt about not being able to find a way to effectively help my B&Q child and sometimes resorting to unhelpful parenting strategies.

    • Helen on March 12, 2019 at 11:29 pm

      Gabrielle, we just enrolled our middle in school for next year to give “a break from the intensity” as you so eloquently put it. I have a lot of guilt around not homeschooling him, but I am overwhelmed and simply can’t make it work right now. I worry all the time that our middle and little are around the intensity all the time and it will negatively impact them. Such a hard balance with multiple kids!

  12. Gabrielle on March 11, 2019 at 9:44 pm

    Perseverance/healthy attitude towards failure is a huge challenge for my B&Q child. Tasks that she perceives as too difficult (e.g., putting her hair in a bun for ballet) or if she gets something wrong or thinks she has failed, they all set her off. So I have been trying to help her with this. Some days I feel successful, but other days it just comes all crashing down and we are back at square one.

  13. Gabrielle on March 11, 2019 at 9:42 pm

    I am just catching up and posting some thoughts as I listen. Probably broken up into bits as I rarely have a free solid 45 min. Hopefully that is ok! I have one B&Q child (age 10) and one bright (age 5). The B&Q one “only” has a gifted diagnosis with average processing speed (34th percentile), so she is not “officially” 2e, but she definitely behaves quirky. Main challenges: emotional intensity/aggression/behavior, and anxiety/perfectionism. Minor challenges: social quirks. “Solved” challenges: learning and school fit (we now homeschool).

  14. Breana on February 25, 2019 at 2:23 pm

    Thank you so much for doing this! Since I really am at the beginning of this journey with my child it has been so good for me to hear how “normal” it is to have experiences with healthcare and mental health professionals where they look at me as though I’m just making things up about my kid as I go. As much as I wish there was more knowledge out there about 2e, it helps to know that it’s not just me and that what I am experiencing is common for many 2e families. Thank you for reminding me that “It’s going to be OK” and that I am not alone.

    • Debbie Steinberg-Kuntz on March 1, 2019 at 10:18 pm

      Thank you, Breana, so glad this normalized your experience and helped you feel less alone. It’s most certainly going to be okay, and I am so glad you are here with us on your journey.

  15. Erika on February 25, 2019 at 7:51 am

    I am so happy to be part of this group. I shed so many tears just at this first module. You make me feel like there is much more hope for our son. After years and years of dealing with many doctors, therapists, schools etc it has been daunting and I feel so alone as I am trying to lead our son on to be a successful bright and quirky kid. <3

    • Kristin on February 28, 2019 at 4:52 am

      Hi Erika,
      I agree, it has been hard doing all those things alone; I suspect a lot of the parents here do so much themselves and need their own support system! I hope this community becomes just that.
      I appreciate how Debbie started out just holding some space for us this module. Just to take a breath in the present moment and acknowledge we are just at the beginning of the journey. We can and will do this together!

      • Sara nied on March 7, 2019 at 4:31 pm

        Hi Erika and Kris, thank you for your heartfelt notes of appreciation. I can so relate to the overwhelming and daunting feeling of being alone in the process of figuring out and supporting our 2e kids. I am so glad we finally have this tribe to call our community of support and people who “get it”. We are already learning so much and I also value slowing down and just acknowledging where we are in our journey. We are stronger together, and our kids are so lucky to have parents working so hard to help them thrive!

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