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14 Comments

  1. Subajini Jayasekaran on March 22, 2020 at 2:09 pm

    I am a mother of a bright and quirky ten year old boy. We just moved from Switzerland, currently in Canada. We are homeschooling this year — actually had been planning to world school. But plans changed with the coronavirus. I am really looking for support to help him manage resistance and avoidance, promote a positive mindset, and address executive functioning challenges. I also find myself struggling emotionally, and am looking for the community support to stay positive and trust that he will find his way.

  2. Dawn on March 18, 2020 at 7:29 pm

    I have a set of 2e twins who are very different than each other, born in 2003 (currently 17 years old.) We have tried various schools with some successes here and there. We have mostly home schooled. My husband works very long hours to support all our needs financially, and I am mostly on my own with raising our kids and supporting elderly and sick extended family. Neither of us has siblings in our decade, so we are stretched thin in both generational directions. Our primary focus right now is on better and more consciously balancing everyone’s real needs without anyone suffering serious negative consequences from not being able to do everything everyone needs all at once. We are in triage, and have been for a very long time.

    I am tremendously grateful to Dr. Dan Peters and Debbie Reber in particular, and now to Debbie Steinberg Kuntz and all of the many professionals and others who contribute to the conversation through them.

    Last year I was unable to keep up on the videos without paying for a subscription, so this year I paid in advance, while the fee was lowest. I am doing a cursory job of registering so that I can explore the 60 day free trial, but I feel bad because I am too overwhelmed to contribute much to the conversation. Hopefully I will manage to create a better balance and sustainable lifestyle, and can contribute more in the future. Until then, I will soak it in from the sidelines with tremendous gratitude.

    Thank you for all who contribute to the conversation. I hope to join ya’ll soon! 🙂

  3. Gabriella on March 12, 2020 at 1:15 pm

    I am a mom of a 10 years old boy who has only been diagnosed with emotion discontrol, social problems, high profile in Pisa. Unfortunately in Italy, above all in South, children who have high abilities+disabilities (2e) are not recognized yet and are just labeled for their downs. My son has been bullied 3 years ago, then expelled because of his reactions. Last school year he refused to stay in the classroom and spent almost the all year in a private rom with his TA playing kindergarden games… This year he has a new TA and was able to stay a few months in the classroom, but after an argument with a teacher who did not understand my son’s limits and attacked him verbally and pushing him, he has started again refusing school. As a consequence, he stays max 2 hours a day at school, in a separate room with a TA another person of support. You probably know that right now in Italy school are closed and we are much better doing homeschooling, otherwise nor allowed.

  4. Amanda on November 3, 2019 at 2:42 pm

    Hi! I am a homeschooling mom of two kids, both bright, one being also quirky. My 2e 12yo son is who has inspired me to seek help in becoming a better homeschooler to meet his needs. I am so excited to be here to learn. I will be using this community to hold myself accountable to my own vision of what I want to create for both of my kids–a learning environment focused on strengths with supports in place to help with challenges. I am so grateful to the creator of this program already. I truly dreamed and wished and prayed for it. And here it is! I can’t wait!! Thank you so much!

  5. Juanita Durand on October 22, 2019 at 11:54 pm

    Your son would greatly benefit from occupational therapy that handles sensory intergration disfunction. That is most probably the reason for his sensitivities. This is not table top therapy, but specific bodily exercises the therapist does while gaging the child’s threshhold and changing exercises accordingly. Hope for relieve for you.

  6. Angela Woltanski on September 2, 2019 at 1:45 pm

    I’m a Mom of a brilliant 10 year old getting ready to start fifth grade at a private school. He doesn’t have negative or aggressive behaviors, is academically strong but lacks the social skills needed to make friendships and navigate this aspect of school. He transferred to this private school last year, surpassed all expectations with the transition to the new school and academically, all As & Bs and scored high on their standardized tests (which I’m not a fan or firm believer of). Our main struggle is determining the best schooling option for Aidan that provides him with a well balanced experience of challenging academics & a positive social, learning environment where he feels confident and successful versus different and alone. Here’s to hoping for one genuine friendship this year! We are exploring homeschooling or some type of coop in the future, but no nothing about this educational option. Aidan has Asperger’s and ADHD.

  7. Felicia Shockey on April 8, 2019 at 1:34 am

    Our son is a 2e 16yr old, is extremely gifted, has ADHD, anxiety/depression/suicidal thoughts and struggles socially. We are battle-worn from life and are to the point of losing hope of ever finding the “key” to make things “click” into place. We feel like we have tried everything with little to no success and are hesitant to “try” yet something yet again that will be unsuccessful. B&Q gives me hope that answers to help him feel good about himself and learn to make himself work within society may be within our grasp!

  8. Brigitte Bolte on February 12, 2019 at 5:54 pm

    Hello, I am a mom of three, one passed away at 24 weeks gestation, the other two are 9 and 7. Boy and girl and they couldn’t be further from opposite to each other. My son is our 2e with quite severe ADHD, if there is such thing as a spectrum for ADHD, he would be at the extreme end for both inattention and hyperactivity. At 9 years old his executive functioning is nil. He has low to no tolerance or patience for most things and anyone he feels is ‘slow.’ He prefers the company of adults as he sees kids as unpredictable, thus would rather avoid them. He struggles significantly is school. He can not tolerate group work and I believe sees the teacher as Charlie Brown’s teacher during lecture. All he hears is waawaawaa…. He has an alternative program for behaviour. He does not attend, french, gym or music as there are too many triggers in these classrooms. He has an EA one on one to function at school. The remainder of course content is significantly modified. Where they ask him questions to see if he is learning anything. He almost always has listen on some level. So, far his grades are still As and Bs, except for subjects that he loathsome, like social studies. He does not like to be taught. He feels he should already know it. He is also a perfectionist, so if he thinks he can’t get something right he won’t do it. He dislikes animals, nature, being outside, ALL Fruits and vegetables and most other foods, unless it’s plain mild cheese, milk or rice. He can not tolerate any physical activity that is competitive in the slightest; he inevitably gets violent. He has SPD where he can not handle brushing his teeth, his hair, or wear clothing with tags or seams. He can’t stand strong smells, like oranges, or the compost bucket on our kitchen counter. He has difficulty with both fine motor and gross motor skills. Honestly, on Dr. R. Greene’s list of lagging skills, he struggles with almost all of them. He can read really well, but struggles with summarizing content. Poor working memory. He’s obscession with computer programming and refuses to do anything else, though we do make him read and punch a punching bag for some variation. He is strong in math and figures things out very quickly. He does like to swim, but does not have a lot of opportunity to swim. Currently, once a week for 30 mins. He also has been diagnosed with DMDD. I don’t fully understand this disorder other than, yes, my son is chronically moody. He has recently started Lithium, which I think might be helping a little, but he is still very quick to anger and trigger. His triggers result in rages and quite violent ones at that.

    Our daughter is quite bright, but so far seems to be neurotypical. Though, she is struggling with resentment of her brother and mourning the lose of the brother whom she feels she deserves; a brother who will play with her or at the very least, pay attention to her.

    We have been playing referee to these two for almost 8 years and are tired of it.
    I went on stress leave for a number of weeks in the fall due to finally cracking at the seems. My son had physically beaten me up three times last year. This life has taken its toll.

    We are hoping to continue learning as much as we can and decide whether we should be seeking a second opinion on terms of our son having not been diagnosed with ASD. We still question if he in fact is on the spectrum, but our psychiatrist is adamant he is not.
    We have little in the way of supports, living far away from family and can not afford home schooling or sending him to a specialized school, so we continue to struggle. I am on the verge of losing my job due to needing to leave to pick my son up so frequently, from school.

    It is a challenge, but we still see the possibilities in our son. He is so bright and can be very happy and full of energy (only when he is doing what he enjoys). The potential to be a good person and contributing member of society is there, we just need to get through this tough part.
    Thanks for creating the idea lab! We are excited to be apart of it!

    • Sara nied on February 16, 2019 at 9:24 am

      Brigitte, my heart goes out to you reading your story. Thank you for sharing your journey and challenges with your son. You are in the trenches right now and are doing a beautiful job of working to understand him and support him in the ways he needs – even if it may not always feel like it. Balancing that with family dynamics, grief, worry, and exhaustion can bring any of us to our breaking point. I hope the stress break brought some balance and relief. If you are still unsure that you have the full picture, a second opinion never hurts. I’ve rarely seen a case where a second opinion hasn’t revealed something new, or a new way of looking at certain challenges. Especially if an ASD diagnosis would open you up for new forms of support. Either way, I love that you recognize those beautifully brilliant parts of him, and can picture him as a grown adult contributing to society. He’s so lucky to have you supporting him when things are at their toughest. Stay strong mama, we are happy you’re here!

    • Amanda on November 3, 2019 at 2:51 pm

      Hi Brigitte,

      I just wanted to extend a virtual hug to you. I see this post is from months ago and I am new here. I hope you continue to reach out to this community and that you find the support you need to help you with your son. And ultimately I hope your son finds some relief and improvement with his symptoms. Currently, I am using the Nemechek Protocol with my son, who is 12 yo with many of the same symptoms you speak of. He was diagnosed with Aspergers and ADHD. He has all the same sensory stuff going on and definitely emotional regulation. The Nemechek Protocol has been helpful for us and I’m hopeful it will continue to get better. Best to you!

    • Sharon Hochberg on November 7, 2019 at 7:51 am

      Hello Bridget. I am new to this website and so glad I found it. I see that your post is many months old. I have a 12-YO guy with Aspergers. I also participate in an online group called Asperger Experts. I believe that they all have Aspergers. And because of this, they get the disconnect between your son and the outside world from a physiological standpoint. I believe that our household is much more peace (but still not perfect) because of what we learned. Best wishes and hugs to you. And don’t forget about self care for you. ?

  9. Kim on February 11, 2019 at 10:26 am

    I find I can tend to get down about all the emotional difficulties and struggles my child goes through. I find that daily reading on Giftedness helps me remember he is totally typical of a Gifted kid. Then I don’t feel like he’s different, he’s actually totally typical. I really want to learn more about the science behind being Gifted and how I can help him with neuroplasticity.

    • Sara nied on February 16, 2019 at 9:44 am

      Hi Kimberly, I love where your head is at! I love the daily practice of reading about Giftedness both for your understanding and for normalizing his experience. And, I also love the desire to work on neuroplasticity. Some of the Summit talks that might interest you are Devon MacEachron, Nicole Tetreault, and Dan Siegel (esp his Prequel). We are excited to have you in the IdeaLab!

    • Jennifer on May 9, 2019 at 11:28 pm

      I am a mom of 2 sons aged 7 and 5. My oldest is 2e. He’s been diagnosed ADHD & ODD. He had a difficult 1st grade year that has turned him against school. By the halfway point of the year we started hearing “they’re torturing me.” He has been suspended several times, often refuses to go. He shows some signs of HFASD but we need a more testing. He’s obsessed with computer tech. Balance is getting harder to implement and he resists transitions out of the house more and more.

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