Summit 2019

Day 1: UNDERSTANDING YOUR UNIQUELY WIRED CHILD

Monday, January 28, 2019. Begins at 10 am ET/7 am PT

SESSION 1: Dan Peters PhD | Bright & Quirky Kids: From Big Picture to Next Steps

Talk Description, Speaker Bio, and Resources

Ever wonder how to explain your bright & quirky child to a teacher, grandparent or other person in your child's village? Dr. Dan Peters shares a concise way to explain it. He also shares pearls of wisdom on raising twice exceptional (2e) kids and what to do in the heat of the moment when emotions run hot.  Dr. Dan also talks in depth about what a neuropsych assessment is and what to do if you don't live near a clinician who 'gets' bright & quirky kids or if an assessment is out of the budget. He talks about how to run problem-solving experiments for your child's particular challenge and how to keep hopeful when life gets challenging. 

Dan PetersDan Peters, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist who has devoted his career to the assessment, consultation and treatment of children, adolescents, and families, specializing in learning differences, anxiety, and issues related to giftedness and twice-exceptionality. He is passionate about helping parents and teachers engage children in the classroom, at home, and in life so that they can realize their full potential. Dr. Peters is co-founder and Executive Director of the Summit Center in California, and co-founder of Parent Footprint, an online interactive parent training program. He hosts the Parent Footprint Podcast with Dr. Dan, available on iTunes, Stitcher, Libsyn, and elsewhere. He is the author of Make Your Worrier a Warrior: A Guide to Conquering Your Child’s Fears, and other books. Dr. Peters blogs for Huffington Post and Psychology Today and writes and speaks on topics related to parenting, learning differences, and education.

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SESSION 2: Laura Kastner PhD | Getting to Calm - Bright & Quirky Style

Talk Description, Speaker Bio, and Resources

According to Dr. Laura Kastner, the best parenting style for our bright and quirky kids features an ingenious blend of challenge and support. Easier said than done! Learn from Dr. Kastner how to adapt your parenting style to fit your child, including how to calibrate support with gentle “nudges,” especially when we have started to habituate to some of our child’s less-than-desirable behaviors. Dr. Kastner talks about how to:

  • Use her C-A-L-M model to keep your cool and build a positive relationship with your child
  • Replace being “right” as a parent with being “effective”
  • Get more compliance from your 2e child by turning off the lectures and engaging them with the key skill of empathy

Laura KastnerDr. Kastner received her doctorate in Psychology from University of Virginia. Currently a clinical professor in the department of psychology and the department of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at the University of Washington, Dr. Kastner has also taught in pediatrics, adolescent medicine, and the medical school. The topics of her academic publications include adolescent sexuality, chronic illness, eating disorders, adolescent development, behavioral pediatrics and medical education. Dr. Kastner is a frequent speaker at conferences, workshops and forums on adolescent development and family relationships. She is an author of five books written for parents on child development and parenting. In her clinical practice, she sees children, adolescents, couples and families.

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SESSION 3: Devon MacEachron PhD | Neurodiversity & The Video That Got 23 Million Views

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There's a reason Dr. Devon's recent video on Neurodiversity is going viral with over 23 million views. She offers a timely paradigm shift away from the deficit model and towards a universal acceptance and appreciation of neurodiversity as an evolutionary and societal advantage that is as critical to human existence as biodiversity. She unpacks the question so many of us ask - do we change our bright and quirky children to fit their environment, or do we change the environment to fit our child? Dr. Devon offers a poignant and fresh perspective that leaves parents feeling a sigh of relief, excited, and empowered to re-focus our efforts in ways that more closely reflect our individual family values, including what feels right for our 2e kids. The result is greater ease, fewer battles, and happier kids moving towards their greatest potential. If ever there was a talk to share with a friend or family member who you wish could understand your child a bit better, this is it! 

Deon MacEachronDevon MacEachron, PhD is a licensed psychologist in private practice on the Upper East Side in Manhattan. She conducts psychoed and neuropsych assessments focused on uncovering the student’s complete profile of strengths and weaknesses as a learner in order to provide an action plan to families that simultaneously further develops strengths and interests while remediating and accommodating weaker skill areas. She is especially knowledgeable about twice-exceptional and gifted learners whose strengths often camouflage their weaknesses, resulting in unexpected performance below the student’s potential. She works with school-age students through young adults. She has an active social media presence on Facebook, Twitter, and blogs on giftedness, twice-exceptionality, being wired differently, the strengths associated with learning disabilities, achievement, and success.

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SESSION 4: Dan Siegel MD | A Different Approach to 2e: School, Peers, Medication, and More

Talk Description, Speaker Bio, and Resources

Dr. Dan Siegel shares a profound and fascinating approach to helping all 2e children, and especially those exhibiting symptoms of depression. Grounded in Interpersonal Neurobiology, Dr. Siegel shares concepts and strategies that impact a child's relational world, with both parents and peers, that have a significant effect on well-being through neurotransmitter functioning. Dr. Siegel discusses:

  • The imperative of doing the "inside work" of parenting, including understanding your own expectations and childhood experiences, so you can be fully present and responsive to your child's needs
  • How the boredom and disconnection many 2e students experience can promote depressive symptoms
  • The significance of a child's sense of "belonging" with environments and like-minded humans, and how a parent can promote this (including evaluating current learning environments)
  • To medicate or not? Dr. Siegel shares a few ideas on what to consider first before medicating your child's symptoms of depression.

(Look for Dr. Siegel's fascinating 'Prequel' on the science behind this subject in a separate talk called 'Deep Mechanisms of the 2e Brain' on Day 7, Session #5)

Dan Siegel

Dr. Siegel is a clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine and the founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center at UCLA. He is also the Executive Director of the Mindsight Institute which focuses on the development of mindsight, which teaches insight, empathy, and integration in individuals, families and communities. Dr. Siegel has published extensively for both the professional and lay audiences. His five New York Times bestsellers are: Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence, Mind: A Journey to the Heart of Being Human, Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain, and two books with Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D:The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline. His other books include: The Developing Mind(2ndEd.), Mindsight,The Mindful Brain, andThe Yes Brain (also with Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D).

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71 Comments

  1. Annette Gaffney on March 1, 2019 at 9:28 am

    Thank you so much for putting this together. I have to say as the mother of a bright and quirky 10-year-old boy, with ADHD and HFASD, I literally cried when I saw Dr. Devon’s video about Neurodiversity. It was so good to hear something positive about being differently-wired. It gives me so much hope for the future. It also explains half of my family LOL! Dr. Laura’s CALM techniques are going to be so helpful in our family. Thank you so much !

  2. Amanda on February 5, 2019 at 6:34 am

    Dr. Laura mentioned parents learning about child development and the brain. Do her books provide any child and/or brain development and if so which one would she recommend to start with?

    Or there any other books, websites or resources for recommendations on learning about child development? Thanks!

  3. Marie on February 4, 2019 at 1:43 pm

    Thank you for sharing words of wisdom! …two Bright and quirky boys over here!

  4. Georgia Anderson on February 4, 2019 at 8:04 am

    How I would have benefited from this information years ago. I plan to review it with my 30 year old 2e child, and see what we can repair together.

  5. Roseanne Schack on February 2, 2019 at 5:56 am

    Wow is all I can say. I have been going at this alone for my child for so long it is nice to hear experts confirm what we have been experiencing. My Daughter was in our local, highly rated by the way, public school system. When she did not make the GT program in second grade I was confused but figured that is that. The school system knows best. She took it hard and would tell me “I am smarter than those GT kids” imagine the teachers reactions when I would tell them my average child thinks she should be in GT. As we moved on to fourth and fifth grade it was a disaster. To here Dan Peters speak about the light being gone from her eyes and we saw it coming. And yes always got As and Bs and was average by all appearances. He could of been telling our story. I went and had her privately tested as a last attempt to figure out what the heck was wrong. Our PS dropped the ball and labeled her with anxiety and that was all they wanted to know. They left us on our own. Turns out she is highly gifted, that is what was “wrong” and has visual perception dysfunction. We moved her to a different school and learning environment and the change was overnight. I mean it was incredible. She is back to being a happy kid, a curious kid and most of all is challlenfed but with accommodations in the classroom.

  6. Denise on January 31, 2019 at 2:27 pm

    Thank you for putting this wonderful Summit together. I have really been enjoying all of the talks! So much of what has been discussed has me nodding my head in agreement and understanding. My college son has undiagnosed Asperger’s, and diagnosed ADHD (Executive function disorder) and anxiety. He has never struggled as much as he is now. He has so many strengths, and it is hard to see him so challenged. Do you think getting such a late diagnosis for Asperger’s would be of any value? I’m not really into labels, but I’m thinking a diagnosis would open more doors for getting help, most notably social skills. Then there is the issue of how do we bring this up in a discussion with him, without making him feel bad. I don’t want to focus on his “weaknesses”, but he does need some help.

  7. Alice on January 31, 2019 at 10:45 am

    Absolutely INCREDIBLE! Bravo for setting these fantastic speakers up and providing and avenue for busy and taxed parents to attend. I have learned so much in a few hours than I have pouring over books and visiting multiple health professionals over the past few years. I’m watching this late due to illness, blessed it was still available. Thank you so much!!!

  8. on January 30, 2019 at 10:08 am

    Fantastic. It was like Dr. Siegel was speaking directly to our family. Thank you.

  9. on January 30, 2019 at 8:08 am

    This is fantastic! It is so inline with what I learned about my 2E kids… I learned late, but better than not at all. I hope some day to get all schools on board with this type of understanding. I currently unschool my Gifted ASD 14yo after a few years of severe prolonged restraints at a therapeutic school who did not understand the difference between CAN’T and WON”T. Unfortunately she has PTSD and is afraid of anyone in a position of authority now, but she is healing and starting to learn again mostly because of this kind of understanding. I love what Session 2 said “We are the CEO’s of our kids school lives”.

  10. Jenny on January 30, 2019 at 6:10 am

    I love how they (Dan Siegel especially) speak about finding your child’s interest and working with that. My concern is that my 6 year old has a wide range of interests and he feels at home at art AND he still wants to play football or lacrosse with the other boys at recess and those are the ones that are less excepting of his differences. How do I manage the peer interactions when he wants to be part of a group/sport that is more oriented towards kids who are more traditionally neurologically wired.

  11. Kate on January 30, 2019 at 4:51 am

    Any chance you could leave ALL the videos up for an extra day? These speakers are amazing and I’m still playing catch-up from being unable to access on day 1.

    Thanks for these—I have two 2e kids and this information is invaluable!

  12. Michelle on January 30, 2019 at 12:08 am

    Excellent!
    Question for Dan Peters’ in response to his statement that since parents know their child best, what is the point of very expensive testing: Aside from being better informed on how to more effectively and efficiently help the chid (and perhaps getting needed professional intervention), a diagnosis is needed to qualify for help from schools (IEPs, for example) and for accommodations for the PSAT, SAT, etc. The College Board requires medical documentation of an official diagnosis in order to grant accommodations. Parental intuitive knowledge of a child hits a roadblock at this gateway to college and is not enough to get needed accommodations once in college. What are parents to do for 2e teens when neuro-psychs are beyond financial means yet the child simply cannot do college boards without accommodations?

  13. Theresa Dawson on January 29, 2019 at 8:25 pm

    WOW! I learned so much about 2e. These doctors are simply amazing, yet their ideas are very down to earth. Thanks so much for sharing all this knowledge!

  14. Brigitte Bolte on January 29, 2019 at 3:48 pm

    i was in attendance for the first summit and am excited to soak up this second annual summit. As a family, we continue to be faced with so many struggles and challenges. We are trying to figure out the conundrum that is our son, how best to support him, help him thrive and help him to succeed in being the best he wishes to be. Wondering what your thoughts are on using CBD. My husband and I hold quite different views on the use of this herbal. Is this going to be discussed at any point during the summit? As well, wondering what the literature and thoughts are on the dynamics of supporting the neurotypical sibling? I have other burning questions, but will hold off for now. I am always on the hunt for the golden nuggets that I have not heard of or tried yet. Thanks so much Debbie, for organizing and running this for a second year! Looking forward to the next few days of learning and insights.

  15. kelly on January 29, 2019 at 3:37 pm

    I loved Dr. Devon’s talk so much. In the last 6 months we have found out that our 11-yr old son has ADHD, Dysgraphia, and a 98th percentile IQ. I felt overwhelmed. But the information has given us a path to go down. I have been diving in and educating myself on the ADHD & Dysgraphia, and that has been tremendously helpful. But I passionately want this journey to be about more than “overcoming” obstacles & challenges. I want that awesome, loving, creative, “the world is his oyster” journey that Dr. Devon was talking about! And I have no idea how to do it, ha-ha! So thank you so much for opening my eyes and casting a vision and letting parents & kids know over and over that failure is learning too, and that there are a million more paths to a bright & fulfilling future than are cast for our kids in traditional K-12 education. A “gap year” in 6th grade – WHAT?! I love it.

  16. Linda mattos on January 29, 2019 at 3:36 pm

    Great knowledgeable resources

  17. Chere Force on January 29, 2019 at 7:55 pm

    Dan Peters PhD interview:
    Focusing on their strengths and supporting their weaknesses. Look at it as an experiment and discuss in a more objective way.
    Take a breath and Count! Yes!
    Thank you so much.

    Laura Kastner PhD interview.
    Getting to calm – so so so important. Such a great discussion and reminder for me.
    Being there for my child first…the relationship must come first. And maybe then the little nudge.
    Thank you.

    Dan Siegel MD interview.
    Love the Journey Shift discussion.
    Getting our child to the point: “I know I am different. I love who I am and I know myself and how I learn differently. ”
    Push for multiple ways to stimulate their multi-learning abilities to fight boredom.
    Finding their tribe. We all need to belong. Yes!
    So inspiring and hopeful for all of us!

  18. nancy on January 29, 2019 at 6:29 pm

    These videos are a great addition to our work with 2e and gifted students. I’ve learned so much already!

  19. Gomathy on January 29, 2019 at 6:08 pm

    All I can say is Wow! My first time listening to any of these speakers. We are quite new to the 2e world but subconsciously we have been letting our 2e kid blaze his own path. Letting go of our grief is a very important thing. We haven’t let go completely. Thanks a lot for organizing this! We now know where to start.

    • Debbie Steinberg-Kuntz on January 30, 2019 at 2:09 pm

      Thanks, Gomathy. So glad you have a starting point. Let us know if we can support you further.

  20. on January 29, 2019 at 5:59 pm

    Learned a lot…

    • Sara nied on January 30, 2019 at 3:51 pm

      Great, so much more coming too!

  21. Kendra on January 29, 2019 at 3:23 pm

    This summit, and specifically the BQ hub, is offering something that I’ve been searching for – a group of parents who all are share similar experiences and the related emotions that go along with them in the journey of parenting these children (in my case, 12yo daughter who has been exceptionally difficult since she the day she was born, very high IQ, gifted in many areas, deficient in others, and diagnosed with a host of things including high functioning autism). In my journey over the past four years, I have found over and over that having that common bond with other parents is invaluable, and am truly grateful to the organizers for facilitating this. Having only recently learned of “2E” I am curious to learn more – and how we can make our families/relatives, friends, schools, and the wider world understand these kids.
    I haven’t even had a chance to watch all of Day One yet, but I can tell already that each lecture will offer valuable advice and ideas. Putting it all into practice, maybe that’s where the BQ hub will be very handy…

    • Debbie Steinberg-Kuntz on January 30, 2019 at 2:13 pm

      Kendra, yes! Couldn’t agree more. This is exactly why we created the IdeaLab/hub. It’s one thing to listen to the talks and another to put the tools and strategies into practice. Life has a way of getting in the way : ) There’s something about sharing the experience with other parents going through similar things that is so validating.

  22. Renuka Coghlan on January 29, 2019 at 2:43 pm

    A truly great day with excellent speakers. Thank you Debbie for putting this summit together.
    I look forward to today’s session.

    • Debbie Steinberg-Kuntz on January 30, 2019 at 2:15 pm

      Thanks Renuka, I appreciate it : ) So glad you’re enjoying the summit!

  23. Mary Santos on January 29, 2019 at 1:16 pm

    Dr. Devon’s talk was super helpful to me. We are currently going through the diagnosis process with our almost 6 year old boy. He is being tested for ASD and/or anxiety disorder. It’s been tough for us to get to this point, but this talk helped me not to be not so fearful.

    • Debbie Steinberg-Kuntz on January 30, 2019 at 2:17 pm

      Thanks, Mary. It can be scary when you’re trying to make sense of what’s going on. You’re in the right place : )

  24. annelise on January 29, 2019 at 8:14 am

    Mum of a multi exceptional son aged 9. Only been aware of the issues after an Ed Psych report last year. Despite which he has had s hideous time at a private school in the UK who had no idea or capability of dealing with, stimulating and teaching a child with a complex range of issues. Dysgraphia, sensory processing, 99th percentile cognition and 5th percentile working memory and v slow processing speed not to mention awaiting an ASD and ADHD assessment. Am tired of describing my son’s difficulties when he has so many strengths he’s funny, energetic, playful, caring, inquisitive nature, a deep thinker with a reading age of 12. I know he will be a fabulous grown up but school so far has been painful. He started a new school last week. I know they can support his SEN but not convinced that they will know how to offer him the opportunity the excel in his chosen topic. The talks I have heard so far have been informative and supportive too. Many thanks Annelise

    • Debbie Steinberg-Kuntz on January 30, 2019 at 2:20 pm

      Thanks Annelise. I hope the new school is a good experience for you son. Here here to celebrating strengths!

  25. Ruchi on January 29, 2019 at 7:32 am

    I am so great full to be yet another year of this summit.Its eye opening and amazing to hear all the different expert point of view on our 2e kids . Thank you for putting this all together.

    • Sara nied on January 30, 2019 at 3:52 pm

      Thank you, so happy you are enjoying it!

  26. Alejandra Casso on January 29, 2019 at 5:42 am

    For the first time I feel I am not crazy, so thank you very much. I have questions: 1. To Dan Peters: for a kid going down into its 3rd round of assessments at just 5yrs of age, after no ability nor disability have been found as such yet (but I am sure of both), would you have a list for me to give to the licensed psychologist who is not a 2e expert to guide them to check that is not just autism related questionnaire?… 2. For Dan Siegel, if I suspect depression out of boredom and prolonged anxiety in a 5 yr old, does that make sense? how does it look like for small kids and what would be the approach without medication that you would recommend when school change is not an option at the moment? 3. To all: How does one help other family members to be aware of their mindset and correct it to tune in with 2e mindset? Thank you!

  27. Sarah Montalvo on January 29, 2019 at 3:14 am

    Day 1 was interesting. My 6 yr old was diagnosed as gifted with a side helping of ADHD. We are on our 2nd school and I am hoping that I can come up with ways to make the school environment suit her instead of the other way around. Thank you for putting this summit together.

    • Sara nied on January 30, 2019 at 4:06 pm

      Hopefully you got some helpful strategies from the past couple of days, so much great content about schools and the process for getting the right accommodations and programs set in place!

  28. Les on January 29, 2019 at 2:35 am

    Debbie – you have once again offered an awesome array of speakers that provide really good insight. Thank you for offering the free experience as it is some of the few resources that I can easily access … even discover different authors more aligned with my learning type. Thank you!

    • Sara nied on January 30, 2019 at 4:11 pm

      Thank you, Les, so happy that you have also found new authors aligned with your learning type for continued growth! You might also consider joining our IdeaLab membership program. Cost is much lower than any private coaching or support, so that it can be more accessible to anyone, anywhere. Happy to send more info if you’re interested in continued support, expert advice and coaching beyond the summit!

  29. Carla on January 29, 2019 at 2:08 am

    Thankful to have been able to watch four talks today. Each interview brought new knowledge and confirmation. I’m a dyslexia teacher with a background in gifted. This is perfect. Thanks so much for a great Day One.

  30. Janet on January 29, 2019 at 1:33 am

    I have a 11 year daughter in 5 th grade, who is in the very beginning stages to get diagnosed for ASD. I just learned about ASD when her new schools principal brought it to my attention,after her teacher got frustrated with her. We have been talking to the school counselor ever since. I new she was unique and very very shy with no confidence, even as hard as I’ve tried to fill her up with it I used to say I thought she was ocd with perfectionism tendencies..until I started reading about aspergers which I can not find anything that is not her. This summit is so amazing for a mother grieving a child I thought I had and the parent I thought I was. Thank you all so much!

  31. Jessica Anarde on January 29, 2019 at 1:05 am

    I have only had the opportunity to watch Dr. Devon MacEachron so far and she has some great insights. I love that she emphasizes focusing on strengths and acceptance. I also loved that she said not to focus on the “weaknesses” based list but decide what tackle based a child’s wants & needs. Mostly I loved that she said to listen to your child. Let them be the driver. My feedback would be that her reccomendations seem geared towards middle to upper middle class families with resources. Also, to those who live in metropolitan areas with options. I live in a semi-rural area outside of Seattle and options are very limited. Waitlists for private OT and Speech can be a year long. Homeschool or gap years can be impossible for parents who have to work and cannot afford childcare during the day. I think we need to consider the whole population to not leave neurodiverse people who don’t have great resources behind. So, if you have to utilize public options then what? Also, I wish she had mentioned all parents should learn from the adults that are part of various disability communities. My experience as a parent has been deeply enriched by listening to autistic adults. I think parents often only listen to other parents and professionals. To really believe in neurodiversity we have to listen to the nuerodivergent directly. Thanks for the opportunity to listen & comment.

    • Brigitte Bolte on January 29, 2019 at 4:52 pm

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts and offering your insight! I agree with what you are saying about the suggestions thus far seeming to be out of reach for some social economic cohorts. If economics was not a barrier, I truly believe we would have already found the best road for our children already. We unfortunately are forced to fit into the shoe we have been given, rather than find the shoe that fits. Reaching far and wide for the creative work arounds have been fruitless thus far. Still, I am happy for those who have found what has allow their child to shine, as no child should have to feel as though their is something they need to fix, to fit in. This summit is full of amazing speakers! It inspired me last year and boost my energy to keep up the good fight against the social norms and status quo… I expect nothing less of this year! 🙂

  32. Carlene on January 29, 2019 at 12:39 am

    I thoroughly enjoyed day 1! Everything said the information shared was fantastic. I can so relate to everything Dr Dan said. I have much work to do and I am so happy to have had the opportunity to listen to the talks put forward.

  33. on January 28, 2019 at 11:44 pm

    Thank you so much. I loved listening to Dan Segal. I have read his books and he just speaks so much sense. Wealth of insight and information.

  34. Kristine on January 28, 2019 at 11:01 pm

    I am a second grade teacher, and I became interested in learning more about 2e kids last year when I had two students in my class who fit the descriptions. I was searching for strategies/suggestions on how to make things easier for them in my classroom with executive functioning skills – while challenging them in areas that interested them. Through those searches, I found Seth Perler and Deborah Reder – and that’s how I was introduced to this summit. Thank you so much for offering this resource!

    I appreciated the way Dr. Devon focuses on the “positives” of 2e students. I love the way she mentioned that their brains are wired for the future! In a traditional school setting, it is difficult to accommodate their needs. It can be exhausting because their needs are so great – and you might have a class of 24 other students who need/deserve just as much of your attention. I also appreciated her perspective on focusing on what’s important to the student and his/her family, and not spending as much effort on other things (spelling, writing, etc.) As I learn more, I am trying to focus my curriculum around their interests to see if we can accomplish two objectives at once. I look forward to learning more! Thanks again!

  35. Gillian on January 28, 2019 at 10:56 pm

    Loved session one. A great deal connected with our experiences. Can’t wait to see them all especially session 4.

  36. on January 28, 2019 at 10:30 pm

    All four presentations today were amazing. I noted, as “just” a parent, that it seems that the deepest learning and more profound examples that all four used with about their own kids. Thank you for this great opportunity to hear from these great experts and to interact with others who are seeking the best strategies to support their 2e kids. Thank you so much.

  37. Doughty on January 28, 2019 at 10:10 pm

    Thank you so much for this awesome first day of interviews. Each speaker offered new insights into my children’s struggles and renewed my determination to pursue specialized courses in their educations and emotional development. I’m looking forward to continuing to learn!

  38. Karina on January 28, 2019 at 9:11 pm

    Just started video 2. I’m late to the party but I got All Access. 🙂 I was wondering, is there any talk that touches on raising a 2e child, ASD or ADHD child when you yourself, the parent, exhibit many of their quirks, lived all your life with your own challenges undiagnosed and misunderstood, and only now are starting to understand your own quirks for what they are? It’s hard to help with emotional explosiveness when you yourself are explosive, hard to teach them executive skills when you yourself struggle, super hard to teach anxiety management when you yourself suffer from it. One can make it a joint learning experience but without much guidance, it can get really ugly really quickly. Sometimes it feels like courses (not these, I haven’t gone through them all) are all geared towards neurotypical, well-balanced parents in control of themselves….

    • Debbie Steinberg-Kuntz on January 28, 2019 at 9:20 pm

      Karina, Thanks so much for your comment. It’s a really good question. Dan Siegel’s talk in day 1 talks about the inner work we parents can do. Also, it can be so daunting. Perhaps work on one small thing at a time. These insights and strategies are relevant to both kids and adults.

      • Karina on January 28, 2019 at 9:29 pm

        Thanks so much for replying. I love Dan Siegel. I listened to him in the Happily Family conferences. I am now looking forward to his talk much more.

    • Hunter on January 29, 2019 at 3:32 pm

      You’re not alone Karina!

      We struggle at our house with these exact issues. Both of us parents are working on ourselves, while trying to help our kiddos. It’s hard. It’s where we’re at and it’s what we’ve decided we need to do. We mess up. We yell – at the kids and at each other. Then we apologize and get back to it. No parent is perfect and I feel WAY less than adequate many days. Some how I keep managing to make life move forward.

      • Brigitte Bolte on January 29, 2019 at 5:23 pm

        Karina and Hunter! Nope you are not alone! Definitly struggling daily as well, bad days and okay days with the odd good day. Hunter, your comment is reflective of my life. I have been reading books, attending lectures, conferences and support groups and have dragged every community support that exists in my demographical area along for the ride, over the last 10 years (the last 6 of which have been the most challenging). I have come to swallow a huge amount of pride and asked for help even when I felt it silly/awkward to ask. It is so true that it takes a community to raise a child. The special difference here is that there ‘is a difference’ to contend with and that the community (often) doesn’t understand it, and don’t have the knowledge or the resources to know how to help. It is certainly a journey and I am learning, very much a lifelong one… I look forward to participating in the Ideas Lab that has been developed. Enjoy the summit! 🙂

  39. Jennifer on January 28, 2019 at 9:06 pm

    Dr. Peters’ session made me cry several times, I recognized my sweet girl in so many of the struggles he described! Thank you so much!

  40. Harriet on January 28, 2019 at 8:53 pm

    I will definitely be talking with my husband about our son’s educational experience. We originally said we’d change something about it if his grades dipped, but today’s topics has opened my eyes to the realization that it’s less about whether he can meet the school’s expectations, than it is if the school can meet his needs. Thank you for access to this information!!

  41. Sara on January 28, 2019 at 8:37 pm

    How desperately we need this knowledge in Sweden!. I felt so relieved listening to you all! At last I felt understood!!!! And best of all: I can share your 2E summit with the team around my family!!!

    • Rebecca on January 29, 2019 at 2:23 pm

      Yes, exactly!! I’m also in Sweden, and finding it fairly amazing that in our culture that seems to be so child-focused, we are missing the boat on this topic. In the struggle to make sure that every single child has the same opportunities, we’ve missed that every single child is different and that we must support their individual journey, not simply try to make everyone “lagom”. Lycka till Sara!

      • Debbie Steinberg-Kuntz on February 4, 2019 at 9:14 pm

        Sara and Rebecca, we hope you join us in the IdeaLab, we’d love to support you and help fuel this movement in Sweden.

  42. on January 28, 2019 at 7:36 pm

    I haven’t listened to all of it yet but so far it is encouraging and empowering that parents can go against mainstream thought to do what’s best for their child. I’m not sure if my child fits into the bright and quirky definition? He had a concussion 5 years ago, he recovered from most of his symptoms but still has some problems. His unpredictable, risky behavior makes it hard for him to fit into certain structures like school. One neurologist told us he’s fine, but we are currently working with a chiropractic neurologist who has helped us understand him better and hopefully we can make some progress with treatment. In the meantime we are trying to help him find his own path that works for him and plays to his strengths. I’m not sure if he counts as “neurodiverse” but I’m finding the information validating and hopeful. Can this information be relevant to children who aren’t 2e? I hope so!

  43. Tereza Korbel on January 28, 2019 at 7:28 pm

    Another aha moment I’ve had along the way (not necessarily today watching the talks though the first speaker does allude to this) is that the quirky genes my child has didn’t just land on us from no where. Looking back at our childhoods, my husbands and I have had a few aha moments, and we know where the dysgraphia, dyslexia (neither of which were diagnosed or formally identified in us when we were kids) and exceptional math abilities come from… In a way, our own struggles have given us more perspective as to how our son feels and how to and how not to help him through this.

  44. on January 28, 2019 at 7:17 pm

    Wow. I’m so excited. My daughter is 10 yrs old and has been receiving resources since 3 yrs old. She’s always been “different”. I’ve just recently learned about 2e kids. This is her in every way. I had no idea there were other kids like her. I’m inspired and hopeful that we can now get her the help she needs. Thank you for this summit. Life-changing for this family!!!

  45. Tereza Korbel on January 28, 2019 at 7:13 pm

    Such timely topics for our family! Our son is just in the midst of a Psych Ed Assessment and the explanations of what those cover (first talk), what to do about the results (third talk) and general advice on positive parenting (third talk) are invaluable at this juncture of our family’s journey… saving last talk for tonight, can’t wait to see what other insights it contains.

  46. John Curnutt on January 28, 2019 at 7:10 pm

    Dr. Dan’s Team helped us with our son assessment. I really enjoyed his talk. Thank you for this summit it gives me hope.

  47. Cathy on January 28, 2019 at 7:01 pm

    The comment that Dan Peters, PhD made on the power of pause, space to observe brought to mind one of the most powerful exercises I did during my MA work in Differentiated Education. The professor asked us to choose a child who was struggling and observe but not intervene as they interacted with others and their learning to see what basic need was not being met (belonging, power, fun, freedom, survival – Wm. Glasser | Choice Theory). This gave me insights into the child’s view of their world and needs – it helped me adjust my approach and focus on the needs of the child vs. just the behavior. I am also excited that many educators are moving away from the traditional “industrial style education” to a more student-centered approach where including students in creating ways to identify stress in our classroom environments and co-create experiments to increase skills, experiments and positive pathways. Thanks to Dan Peters, PhD and Debbie Kuntz for this expanded understanding. P.S.: Thanks as well to the insight of Neuropsychological Testing. When students go through this testing, I sit in on IEP or Guidance Team meetings but have not had understood the depth and breadth of this type of testing until watching your presentation.

  48. Lauren on January 28, 2019 at 6:57 pm

    Dan Siegel’s words about gifted kids and depression, and how working first to challenge them and help them find connection and purpose, really resonated with me. In the “deficit model” we currently are in, a gifted kid’s depression is something to be pathologized before really looking at all the other environmental factors going on. We radically changed some things in my son’s life similar to what Dan mentioned and it’s made a world of difference. Thank you, Dr. Siegel, for sharing your own personal journey with your kids.

  49. Lisa on January 28, 2019 at 6:48 pm

    Thanks so much! Great encouragement for parents! As a parent of a gifted child and a child with Anxiety, the talk really resonated with me. I love what he said about keeping your eyes fixed on the big picture.

  50. Sara nied on January 28, 2019 at 6:15 pm

    I am so enjoying watching Day 1. I’ve already heard from a few family members who are also watching, saying “Oh, I get it now!”. It’s like music to my ears! It’s so validating to listen to these experts talk about Neurodiversity in such a positive light, acknowledging it as a critical component of community health. There is light at the end of the tunnel! I hope everyone watching is having great ‘aha’ moments, I can’t wait to hear what others have to say!

  51. on January 28, 2019 at 5:55 pm

    Thank you. There is a lot of what I’ve heard before but have a hard time implementing: Have more positive than negative interactions. Connect with your child. Consider other options than traditional school. . .
    However, the final talk today from Dr. Seigel promptly had me order his book. I constantly feel like a failure of a parent because I screw up and go down the negative hole. This whole idea of bottom up/inside out rather than top down parenting hit me in a way that I think I need to process further. We want way too much from our ADHD, gifted kiddo and then he (and we) feel let down when he doesn’t meet the high expectations.

    When the second speaker mentioned that all the demands we put on our kid can be taken as a negative feedback by our kid, it really made me think too. There are a million little things that I’m constantly on my kid for – basic stuff like brush teeth, take a shower, no really wash your hair, gather your stuff, time to go . . .Even something as simple as “pick up your dish” which is a daily thing around here can be taken as criticism. It is an eye opening truth.

    • Sofie on January 29, 2019 at 11:47 am

      I so agree. It’s so easy to focus on the negative or become frustrated. I liked the model the second speaker used, about looking at your interaction and trying to ensure that at least half of your pie chart consists of postive interaction. Can we interact with our child without nagging, without correction?
      CONNECT BEFORE YOUR CORRECT. This is not always easy. It does explain why one of my children is much more susceptable to suggestions of change than the other. If I overlook our interaction over the day I think I need to be more accepting of my daughter. See feels so much need to change that it is overwhelming and nothing happens. Poor girl!
      So grateful for these reminders. Sometimes they sound so simple, but somehow I didn’t think of them myself. Parenting is such a journey…

  52. Janet on January 28, 2019 at 5:43 pm

    J ust got done with session 1…. Learned a lot…thank you guys so much…I’m excited for session 2!!! Thank you!!!!!

    • Debbie Steinberg-Kuntz on January 28, 2019 at 9:21 pm

      Thank you, Janet! So glad you’re enjoying the summit!

  53. Debbie Steinberg-Kuntz on January 28, 2019 at 4:36 pm

    I so enjoyed interviewing all of these speakers. Let us know what resonates for you in each of the talks! Not sure if you caught our video with a little story about one of our speakers in our Facebook video. Here it is: https://www.facebook.com/brightandquirky/videos/807037719639656/. In it I’m talking with Sara Nied, our BQ and IdeaLab community manager!

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