Summit 2019

Day 6: CALMING STRESS, ANXIETY & PERFECTIONISM

Saturday, February 2, 2019. Begins at 10 am ET/7 am PT

SESSION 1: Lisa Van Gemert | Perfectionism: How to Manage 'Never Good Enough' in Bright & Quirky Kids

Talk Description, Speaker Bio, and Resources

Lisa Van Gemert shares her very personal journey battling perfectionism, and the keys she discovered to unlock the stranglehold her perfectionism had over her life and relationships. She explains critical strategies to help parents join with their perfectionist child, challenge their extreme beliefs and fears, and to empower them to have more rational and balanced self-talk. Lisa explains the dangers of learned helplessness and gives us language to talk to our kids about their fears, how they can get unstuck, and ultimately build the resilience that leads to a happier, more balanced life.

Lisa Van GemertUsing a combination of neuropsychology, pedagogy, experience, humor, technology and sheer fun, Lisa Van Gemert shares best practices in education with audiences around the world. She is an expert consult to television shows including Lifetime’s "Child Genius," and a writer of award-winning lesson plans, as well as numerous published articles on social psychology and pedagogy and the Legacy Award winning book, Perfectionism: A Practical Guide to Managing Never Good Enough. A former teacher, school administrator, and Youth & Education Ambassador for Mensa, she shares resources for educators and parents on her website giftedguru.com. Lisa and her husband Steve are the parents of three sons and live in Arlington, Texas.

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SESSION 2: Rachel Busman PsyD | The Anxiety Toolkit for Parents of Bright & Quirky Kids

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Anxiety and being a 2e kid can sometimes go hand-in-hand. Rachel Busman gets to the heart of what our 2e kids need from us to help them manage worry and anxious thoughts by meeting them where they are and stretching the comfort zone. In this talk you will learn:

    • What to do with your child’s anxiety triggers - avoid or lean in?
    • The difference between accommodating, rescuing, and enabling your child’s anxious thoughts and behaviors
    • How “exposure” to anxious situations, when properly planned for and practiced, can help reduce your child’s anxiety level
    • How to set a “time and place” for anxious worries
    • At what point anxiety or worry is a problem and when professional help is needed

Rachel BusmanRachel Busman, PsyD, is the senior director of the Anxiety Disorders Center and director of the Selective Mutism Service at the Child Mind Institute. She leads a team of clinicians providing evaluation and innovative treatment to children with selective mutism. She has extensive experience providing cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) to children, teenagers and young adults struggling with anxiety disorders, school difficulties and behavioral problems. She also has specific interest and expertise in the evaluation and treatment of obsessive-compulsive disorder, separation anxiety disorder, social anxiety disorder and specific phobias.

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  • Child Mind Institute
    101 East 56th Street, New York, NY 10022

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SESSION 3: Denise Pope PhD | The Overloaded 2e Child: Challenging Our Ideas of Success

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Dr. Denise Pope brings a wealth of information about what 2e children need to thrive, from re-evaluating our definition of success to creating a nurturing home environment. Dr. Pope shares research about the three “protective factors” that have significant bearing on a child’s happiness and well-being: playtime, downtime, and family time. She also shares what schools can do differently to cultivate engagement and authentic learning, as well as how parents can be an effective advocate for their child at school. Additionally, Dr. Pope shares research from Stanford on college “fit” that provides optimism for non-traditional learners and reduces the stress of the pre-college process for both student and parent.

Denise PopeDenise Pope, Ph.D., is a Senior Lecturer at the Stanford University Graduate School of Education, where she specializes in student engagement, curriculum studies, qualitative research methods, and service learning. She is co-founder of Challenge Success, a research and intervention project that provides schools and families the tools they need to raise healthy, motivated students. She is the author of, "Doing School": How We Are Creating a Generation of Stressed Out, Materialistic, and Miseducated Students and lead author of Overloaded and Underprepared: Strategies for Stronger Schools and Healthy, Successful Kids. Dr. Pope is a 3-time recipient of the Stanford University School of Education Outstanding Teacher and Mentor Award.

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SESSION 4: Patty Wipfler | Tools for Calming Your 2e Child and Yourself

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In her talk, Patty Wipfler offers her deeply rooted wisdom and expertise in how to build and repair a trusting and connected relationship with even our most challenging 2e children. From her explanation of connection from a physiological perspective, to her very loving, compassionate approach to empathy and understanding, Patty covers all the barriers to connection and how to overcome some of the biggest frustrations we face as parents. She discusses self-care in a refreshing lens that is both practical and undeniably effective. Patty’s approach is rooted in such positivity, understanding, and respect that it leaves us wishing we had her in our back pockets in all of our most red hot moments!

Patty WipflerPatty Wipfler is the author of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges, and Founder of the nonprofit Hand in Hand Parenting. During her 40 years of work with parents and children Patty Wipfler has developed a revolutionary parenting approach based on a fresh understanding of the way relationships in the family affect children's behavior and ability to learn. Over 800,000 of her Listening to Children booklets have been sold in English, Spanish, and 10 other languages. The Hand in Hand team currently trains parent leaders in the US and 10 other countries, and offers parents accessible support for the vital work of parenting.

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29 Comments

  1. Kim on February 17, 2019 at 2:55 pm

    I took 6 pages of notes during Peggy Wipfler’s talk. Her work will defiantly be the first I dive into more.

  2. Maree on February 5, 2019 at 8:01 pm

    Thank you so much for opening this back up again! I only found out about this the other day, and signed up, and then realised it was already half way over. I’m so glad I have been able to listen to some of these talks (even if I have only had to have a few snippets of each as I try to sneak them in through out the day while I homeschool my children. It is so great, and going to help us all have a better life, and help my partner be able to be on the same page and understand more about why we are the way we are (and how to help us!) 🙂
    I hope you run another one of these, as I would love to be a lot more prepared for listening than I have been this time 😉

  3. on February 5, 2019 at 5:24 pm

    Another great day of sessions. I love the idea of creating partnerships for support online. You’ve created an amazing community in support of our B & Q kids. Thank you for this great work. I am also encouraged to see so many young professionals poised to carry the field forward. Blessings to you and all the parents doing the very best they can for their amazing kids. Hold them tight.

  4. Lydia Vernon Jones on February 5, 2019 at 10:38 am

    patty is terrific . have her on whenever you do something

  5. Corey & Kristy fielding on February 3, 2019 at 10:08 pm

    Awesome ?

  6. Elke on February 3, 2019 at 1:57 pm

    Loved these talks, particularly the perfectionism discussion. Very valuable tips that I can use right away with my own child and students also. Thank you!

  7. Pamela on February 3, 2019 at 7:21 am

    I have been enjoying this entire summit thoroughly. This is such a blessing! Several of them brought on the tears for various reasons. Lisa, that last message you had for parents was one of them…I have been so hard on myself, thinking I am always not good enough, not doing enough, too strict, too lenient, and on and on. I realized that one of the areas I have perfectionistic tendencies is my parenting! So thank you for your encouraging message! It made me realize I can aim to be a great parent instead of the “perfect” parent.

  8. Carlene on February 3, 2019 at 1:27 am

    Just completed day 6 talks. Dr Rachel helped me realize how important trigger identification is (both theirs and mine). Dr Denise love that Space model, gave me a new perspective and I can so relate. Another wealth of information shared by all speakers. Thank you, fantastic summit!

  9. Mariana on February 2, 2019 at 10:25 pm

    All this research and advice from experts is so validating for me, for years now I’ve been following my intuition on how respond and manage so many situations. I can’t thank you enough.

  10. Amanda on February 2, 2019 at 8:17 pm

    I’m so glad Patty Wipfler mentioned gut issues because biological problems can be a major contributing factor to some of these issues. I discovered our son has Pyrrole disorder. Initially I was sceptical as I had never heard of it but he started the supplements and the improvements for our son in his experience of anxiety and reactivity was immediate and incredible. He had been seeing a psychologist who had suggested referring to a paediatrician to look at anti-anxiety medication and I’m so happy we explored other biological issues before taking this step. Finding a holistic medical centre has been a great step for us.

    • Sara nied on February 2, 2019 at 10:00 pm

      I am so glad you pointed this out, Kelly, and that you found such relief through the supplements. That Gut-Brain connection is so powerful. Way to go, mama, for figuring that out!

  11. Kelly Jeter on February 2, 2019 at 8:17 pm

    Through the several videos that I have watched and taken notes from, I have learned so many new strategies, ideas, and have gained a wealth of knowledge. The draw back to the wealth of knowledge brings about a long list of questions(ha). Some information has been affirming and others have opened my eyes to where I need to improve my approach, words, actions and expectations. I have 2-2e children, one more complex than the other (total of 5 boys). I homeschool them all yet I do struggle with one in particular. This summit has been very helpful in so many ways. I had no idea how many websites and experts are out there to help direct our understanding in a very simple way………I say this cuz most psychiatrists that I’ve worked with are less than helpful. I am confident that I will be sharing several websites with other mothers who homeschool and struggle with their kiddos. You know, there really isn’t a lot of help for homeschool families with kids that are 2e. I am glad I found some to share. Thank you for your time and expertise in helping us as parents and educators.

    • Sara nied on February 2, 2019 at 10:07 pm

      Thank you for sharing, Kelly, and I am so glad you found such a wealth of knowledge in the talks. It can definitely be overwhelming to decide what to do next. One step at a time! You might also really enjoy our new membership program, called the IdeaLab, which will provide access to the experts for Q&A (Ross Greene is up first!) to answer your specific questions, along with a whole community of parents looking for support and community. As you said, there isn’t a lot out there for homeschooling families with 2e kids! You are incredible to homeschool your five boys, they are lucky to have you!

  12. Jason Sorley on February 2, 2019 at 7:45 pm

    Thank you!

  13. Wendy on February 2, 2019 at 6:19 pm

    Another excellent day of listening, learning new insights and techniques to try. Very positive and helpful.

  14. on February 2, 2019 at 5:12 pm

    I’ve been loving these talks so much. Unfortunately I missed days 3-5 because so busy with kids but day 1&2 many of the talks made me cry from joy to feel like I finally am starting to understand my son! And also I realised I am parenting him sooooooo wrong! ? I wish I’d been able to hear the other talks

    • Sara nied on February 2, 2019 at 10:11 pm

      Hi Miriam, I am so happy you felt that joy of starting to understand your son! He’s lucky to have a mama so committed to digging in and understanding him. If you’d like access to all of the talks, downloads, and transcripts, you can purchase an All Access Pass, and listen when you have the time. We hope you can tune into Day 7 tomorrow, all about parenting our bright and quirky kids! I think you’ll LOVE it!

  15. brenda on February 2, 2019 at 4:50 pm

    As a teacher I loved Patty W insight and expertise. Thanks so much as these strategies reinforcing what I truely believe. I have a new class starting and know this advice will help with setting up for the start of the year.

    • Sara nied on February 2, 2019 at 10:11 pm

      What lucky students you have!

  16. Debbie Steinberg-Kuntz on February 2, 2019 at 4:02 pm

    Hi Everyone, I hope you’re enjoying Day 6 of the summit. A funny thing happened today —I was wondering why fewer comments were coming in and so my husband ran a test. We couldn’t find his comment anywhere. Then, after much looking around, we found it in a spam folder along with about 100 other comments. So, if you’ve been wondering where your comment was, it’s now approved and up on these summit day pages. Thanks for all the wonderful sharing. We love hearing from you!

  17. Christina on February 2, 2019 at 10:56 am

    Lisa, thank you so much for all, but also thank you telling me not to beat up on myself – that’s very difficult for most of us. I know it is for me and was something I needed to hear today. I have an amazingly wonderful, 2 maybe 3 e 26 yr old daughter. It’s a challange and I can too often feel I am not giving her everything she needs.

    • Lisa on February 2, 2019 at 9:16 pm

      You are all she needs, Christina. You are doing just fine. – Lisa

  18. Erika on February 2, 2019 at 10:31 am

    Patty Wipfler brought me to tears (in a good way) she added some new tools to our parenting strategies but also validated what we have been trying to do for years with our son., her calm energy and knowledge makes you just want to keep listening. I am just blown away with all these speakers (some. Like Dr Greene I have been following for years) and it’s helping view my kid in a new light and not just focused on the negative. Thank Thank you!!!!

    • Sara nied on February 2, 2019 at 10:14 pm

      What a beautiful note, thank you Erika! What’s better than feeling so validated AND having all sorts of new strategies to hit the ground running!? Don’t you just wish you could keep her in your back pocket at all times? I do!

  19. Lori Kerrigan on February 2, 2019 at 7:52 am

    Is there another place to get Lisa Van Gemerts book. It’s $119.
    I’m loving the summit – for the second year. Thanks for all the great info.

    • Lisa on February 2, 2019 at 9:17 pm

      Yes! The new edition is coming out in a couple of weeks, so if you sign up for the newsletter at http://giftedguru.com or try back on Amazon in about two weeks, it’ll be a regular price. The first edition sold out.

      Thanks for the interest!
      Lisa

      • Lori Kerrigan on February 3, 2019 at 10:38 am

        Thank you!!

  20. Brigitte Bolte on February 2, 2019 at 7:21 am

    Lisa Van Gemert! LOVE your perspective and suggested mindset around school and tasks! Especially love the “learning is not done for a grade…” Now, the question I ask myself, is how do I get my kiddo to hear your message, when he’s not available (emotionally or psychologically) to do so….again really looking forward to the ideas lab ? thank you Lisa!

    • Lisa on February 2, 2019 at 9:18 pm

      You’re so welcome! – Lisa

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