Bright & Quirky Child Summit

Help bright kids thrive, even with learning, social and/or emotional challenges

Session 3: Learning the Secret Language for Bright Kids' Emotional Health

Marc A. Brackett, PhD

There's a secret language hiding in plain sight that most of us were never taught; the language of emotions. Learn why Marc Brackett, Director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, believes we have a moral obligation to give our kids, and ourselves, permission to feel and name what's going on underneath the surface at an emotional level. Learn how to use the Mood Meter to open a whole new, healing dialogue in your family to lead to greater health, happiness, achievement and creativity. Marc's RULER program empowers kids' emotional intelligence and is used in over 2,300 schools all over the world.

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  1. Allison on March 17, 2020 at 1:51 pm

    This information is so powerful. What do I do if my daughter is not interested in having conversations about feelings?

  2. Kate Bailey on March 17, 2020 at 10:31 am

    very interested in the Mood Meter – thankyou
    Children really are our teachers!

  3. Kelly on March 14, 2020 at 6:58 am

    This talk is amazing and incredibly helpful, thank you so much, Debbie and Dr. Brackett. Eager and excited to read the book.

  4. Viv O on March 14, 2020 at 5:18 am

    Great stuff. I’d love it if schools in the UK would use something like RULER. I’m curious about how to teach emotional intelligence in a child with Alexithymia (inability to understand emotions). My 15 year old never uses ’emotion’ words – his descriptive words have always been ‘fine’, ‘bored’, ‘ok’, occasionally ‘hungry’ or ‘tired’. Pretty much nothing else. I tried using a feelings wheel when he was younger, but trying to name emotions just seemed to upset him more. (He’s now a school refuser with diagnosed school related anxiety, but he doesn’t recognise the anxiety himself – just knows he can’t go). I will try harder to model emotional intelligence and to name my own emotions to help him recognise them in others, at least. Thank you.

  5. Gloria Gallardo-Walker on March 14, 2020 at 2:12 am

    Absolutely beautiful to learn that experiences don’t define us. Will nourish the strategy of positive self talk in all the people I meet thanks to Dr. Marc Brackett.

  6. Brenda on March 13, 2020 at 10:22 pm

    Went down that road with the doctor giving a prescription one child age 6 (medicated ) found out quickly we didn’t like the effect so we stop medicating this child was diagnosed with ADHD is now 10 no medication teaching how to take care of himself with skills to calm himself

  7. Lee on March 13, 2020 at 8:02 pm

    Wow! Thank you, Dr Brackett! This is life changing for me – and hopefully for my family~

  8. Niki B on March 13, 2020 at 7:36 pm

    Debbie has a new painting today! Haha! Love it!

    • Lauren on March 14, 2020 at 12:41 am

      I know! I miss the bird 😉
      -Lauren with the B&Q Team

  9. Nikki on March 13, 2020 at 7:33 pm

    So helpful and so honest! I applaud Dr. Brackett for is transparency in sharing his personal experiences for the betterment of all children. Engaging talk!

  10. Rose on March 13, 2020 at 7:33 pm

    Wow! Thank you for acknowledging that you were loved by your parents. Love is important but not enough. As a parent I am trying to work on myself in order to have a positive impact on my children’s social emotional development. Thank you for your important work. Can’t wait to read your book.

  11. Cori on March 13, 2020 at 5:57 pm

    I love the ideas presented here. Being an emotion scientist rather than judge. That it is our moral obligation to give our kids permission to feel. And that there are tools like the mood meter to help. Thank you!

    • Lauren on March 14, 2020 at 12:45 am

      I loved the emotional scientist idea too, Cori. Giving our kids permission to feel resonated with me. They so need that. I love it when he said there are no good or bad feelings, and that feelings are just information. So true!
      -Lauren with the B&Q Team

  12. Kathleen Linn on March 13, 2020 at 5:33 pm

    What a helpful discussion! I have just finished watching, and immediately ordered the book, which I will read, then pass on to my daughter. Thank you so much, Marc and Debbie!

  13. Sheryl on March 13, 2020 at 12:11 pm

    Dr. Marc Brakett, Your relaying your experience with your dad saying “This is me. Deal with it.” had me time traveling – maybe even the same pitch, tone, rhythm, and volume. Finding our way back to ourselves becomes our lifetime curriculum. Thank you for sharing yours with the world!! I had my husband listen to this interview with me, and I witnessed him taking a huge leap in his openness to the importance of feeling emotions. He asked me to be sure to order a copy of the book for him to mark up 🙂 ! Thank you, yet again!
    – Sheryl with the BQ Team

  14. Joanne Emery on March 13, 2020 at 9:35 am

    This was MARVELOUS. I already ordered Marc’s book! I will write a book review of it for the NJAGC promise newsletter. I can’t wait to read more!

    Thank you!


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