Bright & Quirky Child Summit

Help bright kids thrive, even with learning, social and/or emotional challenges


We know firsthand that the bright and quirky parenting path can be exhausting, frustrating, and at times lead to burnout. Today's esteemed panel is a salve and will fill your cup with actionable insights and strategies to regroup and renew your energy for the journey ahead. If it feels like parenting a bright and quirky child is complex or lonely, it's because it often is. But rest assured, you're now with the bright and quirky tribe of experts and parents, and we get it. You are not alone.
Session 1: Use the 4 S's to Show Up in the Way Your Child's Needs

Tina Payne Bryson, PhD

In the toughest moments with your child or teen, do you ever wish you had the perfect thing to say or way to respond? Learn from Dr. Tina Payne Bryson about the 4 S's and how to be the parent your child needs, informed by the science of attachment, regulation, and relationship. You will hear about simple but powerful ways to help your child co-regulate instead of co-escalate and how to become a safe harbor for your child. Dr. Tina describes ways to respond that match a child's experience which can regulate their nervous system and get them (and you) back to calm. Dr. Tina reminds us that it's never too late to help our child move from the threat circuitry of their brain to totally different neural networks by creating positive emotional experiences you can start doing today!

Session 2: How Not to Lose Yourself in Parenting Your 2e Child

Dr. Dan Peters

Dr. Dan Peters of the Summit Center knows gifted and 2e kids - their vibrancy, their gifts, and their challenges. Parents know that helping a child learn to regulate within these challenges is a critical life skill. But the anxiety, anger, and angst experienced by our Bright & Quirky kids causes us to experience an equal (or greater amount) of stress and anxiety. Dr. Dan is the voice of calm with his key messages. Don’t lose yourself while parenting this dynamic and demanding child. Being present for your child is critical for your child’s positive development, but you can’t be present for your child if you are not first present for yourself. Be kind to yourself. By living that and modeling that, you are giving your child an important lesson and a true gift.

Session 3: Neuroception: The Missing Link in Helping Our Kids (and Ourselves)

Claire Wilson, MA

Claire Wilson gets it. She gets the anxiety and stress that our children can feel and that WE can feel. And she gets it at a deep level. She takes the work of Stephen Porges and brings the concept of neuroception into everyday language that works for parents and kids. She teaches parents and kids to focus on their body and how it feels. She brings people on a journey of self-awareness and self-empowerment by helping parents, teachers, and kids ask the question, “What would help you feel safer right now?” And this is a question for parents and teachers to ask of themselves, as much as for the children in their care. Her concepts of staying grounded and helping children stay grounded (and learn to keep themselves grounded) will leave you with strategies to use right away.

Session 4: Help Bright & Quirky Kids Become Who They Were Meant To Be

Scott Barry Kaufman, PhD

Listen as Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman shares his formula for what he sees as the ideal ratio to meet children's strength development vs. remediation needs, and how to encourage our children to take risks and find their pathway to become fully who they are. There are a number of routes to becoming fully human. That is Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman's take on the path to self-actualization in his new book Transcend: The New Science of Self-Actualization. Dr. Scott discusses his new integrated model of whole self development including self-acceptance, self-esteem, health, and growth - all applying deeply to our twice exceptional tribe with which he proudly identifies. He tells his personal story of self-emancipation from special-ed to honors classes in 9th grade, and shares how important it is to help kids decouple how they do in school with their basic sense of self worth.

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  1. Joseane Pizzatto on March 18, 2020 at 9:00 pm

    Dear Debbie,
    I really loved all the speakers. I enjoy every single minute of the lectures. Thanks for this opportunity from my heart.
    Have a good month,

  2. Bianca on March 18, 2020 at 6:49 pm

    I am so grateful I stumbled across this summit. I joined it for this day in particular and I’m so glad I was able to see these presentations. My family and I wil benefit from these informative talks on parenting.; love the 4s’s , the self-care reminder, approaching children on their level. I’m interested to see the new Maslow’s hierarchy of needs design! Thanks again!

  3. Anne on March 17, 2020 at 2:03 pm

    Thank you so much for extending the availability of the summit discussions. They have been so informative and reassuring.
    I really appreciated the opportunity to listen to all of the discussions, being able to go back to the ones presented when I
    was not able to listen! I truly wish this collective information was available when I was growing up, and when I was raising
    my family. So happy it is here for my grandchildren!

  4. Beth on March 17, 2020 at 8:09 am

    I’m wondering about this too — how to de-escalate the situation when the child has slipped beyond these techniques and is at risk of getting violent with themselves or others? Thank you.

  5. Lisa on March 16, 2020 at 4:58 pm

    Any suggestions for the co-regulation when the child’s nervous system is in fight and there are physical risks because of the aggression and violence? I appreciate the key is to soothe the state before it gets to this point but what to do in the moment of aggression? Also appreciate it is very individualised but any strategies we can consider?

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