Our bright and quirky kids often face challenges in school, with peers and at home. According to Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, adversity and stress are more tolerable, if they have enough support. When we provide our kids with connection, these stressors feel more manageable, because they’re able to co-regulate with us. Take a listen to this nugget from Dr. Tina.

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  1. Sarah Norris on February 25, 2020 at 10:57 am

    YES! I could not agree more with what Tina had to say in this clip. I loved the story she shared about her friend who rocks her daughter after school. Such a beautiful illustration of combining a co-regulation relationship and a sensory safe space.

  2. Allison Rose on February 25, 2020 at 11:37 am

    Today’s big shiny pearl. I’m definitely guilty of co-escalation! Thank you.

  3. Penney Green on February 26, 2020 at 6:25 am

    I love the comment of co-regulate rather that co-escalate!!!!!!

    I am a teacher of special population children, and that will become a key phrase for me from now on!!!! LOVE IT!!

    • lyli harder on February 26, 2020 at 10:22 am

      Very good info, thank you! Safe haven when they come home from school AND when they are getting ready to leave in the morning. Definitely something I will be working on!

    • Lauren Hutchinson on February 27, 2020 at 1:15 pm

      YES!!! This is so important for this population. Thank you for the important work you do!
      -Lauren with the BQ Team

  4. Tracey on February 26, 2020 at 6:49 am

    This was absolutely fantastic, and exactly what I needed now.

  5. Kerri Sumlinski on February 26, 2020 at 7:04 am

    So glad to be reminded of the importance of both keeping our own tanks full as well as being a safe haven for our kids. I can see how much my 2e daughter — even at almost 13 (maybe especially because almost 13!) — benefits from lots of hugs and cuddles and acceptance from me in her times of overwhelming stress.

  6. Lauren Hutchinson on February 27, 2020 at 1:13 pm

    Agreed! That’s a beautiful image. Safety and co-regulation are the reasons I come home after work and give the husband a long hug. Adults need that co-regulation too after a stressful day!
    -Lauren with the BQ Team

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